Jane Seymour on finding new love in her mid-60s: No Tinder

LOS ANGELES — Jane Seymour was in her mid-60s when her husband of 20 years decided it was over. The actress was floored.

“I had a long marriage and never thought it was going to end,” the 68-year-old said recently while promoting the second season of Netflix’s “The Kominsky Method,” co-starring Michael Douglas and Alan Arkin.

“I’m going, ‘I what? I date? What? Are you crazy? How does this work?’” Seymour said. “And then my kids would say, ‘Mom, there’s this thing called Tinder.’ And I’m like, ‘No, that’s not going to happen.’”

But similar to her character in “The Kominsky Method” who runs into an old flame, fate intervened, and Seymour stumbled upon new romance. She has been with boyfriend and British film director David Green since 2014, about a year after her divorce from filmmaker James Keach, who directed “Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman,” Seymour’s iconic role.

“Accidentally I ran into somebody I knew 38 years earlier who had been in a long marriage and his marriage ended,” she said. “It wasn’t his choice and my marriage ended, it wasn’t my choice. And we randomly met accidentally 38 years later and realized we were free, and we’ve been together ever since. So I do not have to date.”

Her experience drew Seymour to “The Kominsky Method,” in which she plays Madelyn, who reconnects with Arkin’s character (Norman) at a funeral following the deaths of their spouses.

“I do get this whole thing of having a relationship with someone that’s a contemporary, you know?” Seymour said. “We’re both dealing with older children, exes and our future … how long will we live? How can we stay healthy? How can we tick off our bucket list? Do we still want to work or do we feel like we’ve only just started, which is the case with me and David.”


The Emmy- and Golden Globe-winning actress has four children and two stepchildren from her four marriages.

On top of acting and a busy family life, Seymour designs furniture and jewelry. Seymour recently had a one-woman art show in Washington, D.C., she writes books, runs a nonprofit and produces movies.

“I do what I do because I love it,” she said. “I don’t think of it ever as a job … It’s called living. So I don’t see retiring. You don’t retire from life.”

In fact, Seymour said her own children have a tough time keeping up with her.


“Inside of me, I’m 20. OK? I hang out with my 23-year-old boys, and the other day I was with them running around Europe and they said, ‘Mom, can you slow down?’” she said. “I went, ‘No, this is the pace at which I go and you are a third of my age, so you better just catch up with Mama.’ I just love life.”

With age, she said, has come “more of a freedom in kind of accepting who I am and what I look like and how I feel now than I did when I was younger, when I was trying maybe too hard to be something.”

Seymour first caught the eye of audiences when she played Bond girl Solitaire in 1973’s “Live and Let Die.” Asked what it’s like to be a sex symbol for nearly five decades and well into her 60s, Seymour scoffed.

“I’ve never thought of it that way,” she said, noting that she and her Bond character were both virgins. “So hardly a sex symbol. I didn’t know what sex was.”

Since then, Seymour has posed in “Playboy” three times, in 1973, 1987 and last year, when the magazine said the actress “is more of a sex symbol now than when she played a Bond girl.”

To Seymour, sexy means being comfortable in your own skin at every age. That’s why she hasn’t had plastic surgery, the actress said.

“I made a choice a long time ago not to do all the things that other people do because I’m not trying to look like me when I’m 20 or 30. It’s kind of pointless,” she said. “So, I just thought, let’s put on a gray wig and have some wrinkles and actually play characters.”

Seymour said she’s one of the lucky actresses who’ve landed great roles after 40.

“Hollywood’s been pretty good to me, actually,” she said. “Back in the day, they used to say if you’re a woman and you’re 40, you’re done. Well, when I was 40, I got ‘Dr. Quinn.’ So that’s when I started. And to be honest, right now I feel like this is my moment because there’s all these amazing characters that I can now play without having to worry about whether I look like a leading lady.

Her eyes glimmered: “And I can still play it like a leading lady if I put my hair and makeup together.” NVG

source: entertainment.inquirer.net

Kristen Stewart can’t wait to propose to GF, reminisces about ‘first love’ Robert Pattinson

Actress Kristen Stewart reminisced about her Twilight years and her past relationship with Robert Pattinson in a recent episode of the radio program The Howard Stern Show. She also talked about potentially proposing to her writer girlfriend Dylan Meyer.

Stewart admitted that she has plans to get married, as per her interview published on the radio show’s YouTube channel on Tuesday, Nov. 5. When Stern asked if she was in love, she answered “yes.”

Stern’s next query was if she plans to propose, to which Stewart answered, “Absolutely.” As to when this proposal will exactly be, Stewart emphatically declared, “I can’t f*ck*ng wait.”

Stewart refused to disclose specific details about her proposal, stating that her girlfriend might find out. But she did confirm that she won’t be going for the traditional route of getting down on one knee.

The couple appears to be seriously in love, if Meyer’s romantic Instagram post last Oct. 28 would be an indication.

Meanwhile, when asked if she would have married her former boyfriend Robert Pattinson, Stewart appeared flustered.

“I don’t know, I wanted to… yeah, no,” Stewart answered.

Stern asked next if she would have married him had he proposed, to which Stewart replied, “I don’t know… Every relationship I’ve ever been in, I thought that was it.”

Stewart also talked about her faith in the sanctity of marriage.

“There is nothing like feeling sure about anything because we don’t know anything,” Stewart said in the interview. “[And] that is the only thing you can feel like you know, is that if you’re in love with someone.” Cha Lino/JB

source: entertainment.inquirer.net

Lover’s quarrel linked to hunger – study

MANILA, Philippines—Irritated with your lover? Grab a sandwich first.

In a study that the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, hungry people are more likely to unleash a maelstrom to their partners due to low glucose levels in the bloodstream.

Scientists found out that glucose levels in the blood could directly influence the anger levels of someone towards his or her spouse and stick pins to a voodoo doll.

Hungry people are also more likely to lambast their partners with loud noises after defeating them in a game.

“People can relate to this that when they get hungry, they get cranky,” Professor Brad Bushman of Ohio State University in Columbus, Ohio told The Independent. “We found that being ‘hangry’—hungry and angry—can affect our behavior in a bad way, even in our most intimate relationships.”



According to the report, the study encompassed three years and had 107 married couples who were assessed for their general relationship satisfaction to determine their happiness levels.

Over a 21-day period, each couple monitored their blood glucose levels in the morning and was given a voodoo doll and 51 pins that they could stick to the plushy depending on how angry they were.

“When they had lower blood glucose, they felt angrier and took it out on the dolls representing their spouse,” Bushman said.

He said that even those couples who enjoy a satisfactory relationship let out their inner Hulk whenever they were hungry.

After the 21-day period, the couples participated in a laboratory test where they were asked to play a computer game against their partners where the victor could do any conceivable and possible noise to the loser through headphones.

Unknown to the respondents, the couples played against the computer and not against each other so that they would lose half of the matches and win the other half.

“Within the ethical limits of the lab, we gave these participants a weapon that they could use to blast their spouse with unpleasant noise,” Bushman said.

Again lower glucose levels, and intensified hunger, resulted in louder noises.

Bushman deduced that food is required to maintain self-control as lower glucose levels do not produce much energy for the brain to keep a person sane.

“It’s simple advice but it works; before you have a difficult conversation with your spouse, make sure you’re not hungry,” Bushman said.

source: lifestyle.inquirer.net

Even ugly people can find love on the Internet

You, yes, you: what if I ignored your call? Or we passed each other by in a crowded room? Isn’t it disturbing that Cupid’s arrow could be so hit-or-miss?

And yet these days, two complete strangers could be thousands of miles apart, but with a click of a mouse, light a flame of love. They could be fat, old, disabled and have STD; they could be anyone they want to be—married, single or widowed—and embark on journeys of love.

“There’s a saying old, said that love is blind, still we’re often told, seek and you shall find,” so the song goes. Searching for love (heck, looking for sex)—if it isn’t yet an epidemic, it will soon be.

Sometimes I let myself out of the 19th century and wonder: what’s happened to serendipity, the preambles of courtship?

Remember the thrill of getting ready for dates: the outfit, the movie, the restaurant; the chaste kiss at the end of an evening which was never really long enough for falling in love; so, you, breathless with bewitchment, arrange to meet again.

That was then. Today we’re in a postdating world of infinite opportunities. Maybe it’s all the same. Maybe the past was better, just slower. Maybe today is better, just faster.

Sure, couples from well-matched castes can find happiness in traditionally arranged marriages, complete with eye-watering dowries. In the time-honored fashion of dynastic alliances and endogamy, couples still court and marry within their tribes: an Astor marries a Churchill; a Marcos an Araneta; a Fariñas a Singson.

What if you go off-grid? Today, no longer is there a stigma attached to online dating, a multibillion-dollar industry which has opened up many ways for meeting new people.

More satisfied

In the United Kingdom, one in five relationships now starts online, with more than 10 million Britons registered on dating sites.

A recent University of Chicago research found that more than a third of couples who married in the United States, between 2005 and 2012, met online, and that they were more satisfied and less likely to break up than couples who met in the traditional manner.

Oh, the mass and volume! Match.com (17 million users a month); MatchAffinity; eHarmony; thegaggle; craigslist; DatingDirect, to name a few. Because the Internet is a vast and transgressive market catering to all kinds and kinks, it even has a site for ugly people—theuglybugball.com. “Ugly people,” said the site’s founder, Howard James, “are easier to please; they have lower expectations.”

Surprisingly, people in their 50s and 60s are the fastest-growing demographic in the online dating pool. Retrosexuals—fleeing loveless beds and carcasses of sex-drought, failed or stale marriages—are logging on to reheat relationships with childhood sweethearts, first loves or old flames.

Beware, for as many as there are sites, so, too, are the risks. Many have been duped and fleeced of their money by online fraudsters creating fictitious profiles with photos of attractive men and women. A spark is ignited and a scam usually starts with a request for a small sum of money—to pay off a debt, or for a relative’s medical treatment.

Philip Hunt, 58, went online for love after two failed marriages. He met Rose, a “young and beautiful woman living in Nigeria.” Over eight months, through e-mails and texts, Rose bled Philip dry. He remortgaged his house, took out loans, and when he put himself on the path of an express train that killed him instantly, he had debts of £82,000.

Millionairess Carole Waugh, 49, described herself in her online profile as “posh totty fun,” promising “true girlfriend experience.” Two gambling addicts hooked up with her, stole her identity, sold her home and stripped her of her bank accounts and assets. She was fatally stabbed in the neck, her body stuffed in the boot of a car.

Leaky sieve

You could find yourself in a fever of love with Emma, a hot doctor practicing in Toronto; only it turns out Emma’s an Uzbek tosser with a mustache. And he wants your credit card details.

Websites, always in danger of being hacked into, often fail to protect their customers, with information about them falling into the hands of stalkers, convicted rapists and sex offenders. “The Internet is a leaky sieve, so keep your emotional credit balance low,” warned psychotherapist Phillip Hodson.

Personal ads and lonely hearts columns in newspapers and magazines still hold their charm. “Fifty from the neck up and 14 from the waist down”; “sixty but still rather nifty.” Sometimes you have to view lies as the building blocks of good manners, but people who crow like cocks for all they’re worth usually hide something.

People have forgotten so much about wooing that they’re paying dating coaches to teach them the art of courtship—flirting with intent, chat-up lines, flowers and small gifts, what to say on a date. In Vegas, coaching from Same Night Seduction Bootcamp will set you back £2,000.

But it’s elite matchmakers which are creaming off the dating scene. These are go-to agencies for highly educated, professional men and women who do not have the time or the inclination to indulge in traditional courtships.

For huge fees, high net worth individuals with specifications of their ideal would-be partners brief exclusive dating agencies who search and screen candidates, and enable introductions and dates.

Duncan Cheatle is a successful entrepreneur who has been on several agency-enabled dates. He told The Times: “Why would I not invest eight grand in someone I trust to help me find connections when I’m busy?”

Eight grand? Peanuts! Berkeley International, with offices in key global cities (i.e., where the money’s at), has 3,000 crème de la crème members who think nothing of paying $75,000 for a one-year membership. This is “headhunting” for trophy wives and husbands on a rarefied scale.

Stubbornly single

Have a heart then for China’s “leftover” men—so-called because, in their advancing years, while desperate to get married, they remain stubbornly single. Every Sunday at Beijing’s Temple of Heaven Park, hundreds of parents hawk their sons’ CVs to potential wives who, because of their scarcity, can afford to be picky: does he have an apartment, a car, a permit to reside in Beijing?

The gender imbalance is marked, with an average of 150 men to 100 women. China’s Academy of Social Sciences predicts that, by 2020, there will be some 24 million marriageable men without wives or partners.

This is not a problem for very wealthy Chinese alpha males who outsource their search for brides to exclusive marriage bureaus with their armies of “love hunters.”

Before you sally forth into your amorous adventures, remember that nobody’s perfect, not even you.

Don’t hope for too much, but don’t settle for less

Don’t settle for someone with the personality of a bread mold, the IQ of a pot plant, or the manners of a lowlife bottom-feeder. Private lives can be rumpled and messy, and some of us are damaged goods carrying heavy emotional baggage.

Don’t be an intellectual slouch, but don’t be a howitzer, either. Don’t frighten them away on your first date with talks about having children or the diagnosis of a disease, or launch into boastful sexploits. Desperation is like body odor: it is rank, unpleasant and unsexy.

Agree to split the bill. And take care of your personal safety.

What an utter desert, Charles Darwin said, is life without love. That we can ache and fret in places of our hearts we didn’t know existed.

So, maybe, go, give it a whirl. A low-expectation encounter might just result in fireworks and a ring on your finger.

But, it’s not always simple; if it were, everyone would be doing it. Margie David Collins

Apps to meet your match

A free app for iPhone and Android, Tinder is the 21st century’s take on “cruising.”

It’s a matchmaking service linked to a Facebook account. The app registers your current location, asks who you’d like to meet and then flashes up photos of potential matches near you.

You swipe “Like” and, presto, you could meet more people in one evening than in a week or year of waiting to hook up with someone. Ditto Foursquare.

Facebook’s new Graph Search helps you find your “perfect match” and sets up potential dates. For example, type in “Who are single in Metro Manila and graduated from The Wharton School?” Boom! Margie David Collins

source: lifestyle.inquirer.net

Nancy Castiglione unaffected by rumors linking her to Hayden Kho

MANILA, Philippines – Life goes on for erstwhile actress Nancy Castiglione after she figured in a love squabble between Dr. Vicky Belo and Hayden Kho.

Nancy was cornered by some staff of ABS-CBN entertainment and, as expected, was pressed to comment on her romantic links to Hayden.

With seeming exasperation, Nancy pleaded, “Let's not go there naman...We’re here for OMB naman.”

But she brushed off speculations that she’s greatly affected by the issue.

“My life stayed the same. I went to work at 9 to 5 being a broker. I went home to be a mother, so nothing really changed. I don’t know with everyone else because I didn’t really pay attention,” she said on “TV Patrol,” April 24.

Among other controversies that hounded Nancy in the past was an alleged photo where she was captured with Hayden while frolicking at The Fort in Taguig City. The photo has since gone viral.

But Nancy claims she never had the chance to see the photo. She also doesn’t remember being there with Hayden but with her clients.

“No, no. Well, I don’t know because I haven't seen the photo, but I don’t remember ever going to The Fort except with my clients for cocktails,” she explained.

The former young star is not keen on making a showbiz comeback.

“I’m a broker so if you’ve seen ‘Wall Street,’ the movie… [the] shouting, that’s what I do,” she said.

Last February, Belo shocked Twitter denizens when she unabashedly declared, "Nancy Castiglione you can now openly date @haydenjr. You have my blessings. Hope you'll both be happy."

This was after rumors surfaced that Nancy and Hayden were caught smooching inside a bar in Taguig.

After Vicky’s tweet, Hayden posted a message on his Twitter account revealing he and the cosmetic doctor were going through a misunderstanding.

"Before things go out of hand: Vicki and I are just having a misunderstanding. Don't make conclusions. There's NO infidelity issue here," Hayden tweeted.

This was followed by an appeal to the public to not pass judgment on Nancy who was rumored to be the third wheel in their separation.

"I'd like to appeal to everyone to please hold your judgment. There has been a misunderstanding and it's gone out of proportion. I feel that the public doesn't have to get involved in this but since names have to be cleared and this issue involves the welfare of two innocent toddlers, I will have to speak out my piece, but at the right time. Thank you."

Addressing the issue head on, Nancy, on “Startalk,” explained she doesn’t know what transpired between Belo and Hayden.

"Actually, to be honest, I am not really sure what's going on," she said, maintaining that "Hayden and I are acquaintances, we're friends that's true, because you know, I still have some friends in the industry. That's about it, I'm sorry but that's about all I can tell you."

“Startalk” host Butch Francisco then related his conversation with Belo, who confirmed her break-up with Hayden.

“It is over! I hope. Yes, we had been fighting. Regarding Nancy, I think it's true. I am letting him go so that they don't have to be hiding. This was bound to happen because he is young. Yes, we were in love but I am not ilusyunada (naive) to think that it will be for life given the age gap. I don't need to make a statement. I just want people to stop picking on him. He was so good to me and made me so happy. Sometimes, relationships just don't work out. It's sad but there's no one to blame," Belo was quoted to have told Butch.

Belo left for the US on the eve of Valentine’s Day sans Hayden.

“On my way to Los Angeles for my first Valentine alone. Maybe I'll learn to love myself," she tweeted.

source: mb.com.ph

Valentine's Day Google Doodle

Today Google celebrates Saint Valentine's Day with a video that uses Tony Bennett’s 1951 recording of Hank Williams "Cold Cold Heart", that went number one hit on Billboard.

The Valentine's Day Google Doodle features an animated Doodle with a short love story, a young boy trying to impress a girl and give her a valentine gift and goes on to search Google to find out what best he can give to her but the girl is not impressed and continued to play with her jumping rope. Finally the young boy gives up on gifts and went back with his own jumping rope. Now the girl falls in love with him.

After playing it, you will be redirected to "Valentine's Day" Search page.

How love improves your health

In the movie, Cinderella said, “Do you love me because I’m beautiful, or am I beautiful because you love me?”

Well, apparently love makes us more than just beautiful. Loving others make us healthier! This love month, let us review some of the research findings about how love can make us healthy.

Love can boost your immune system. Dr. Gian Gonzaga, senior director of research and development at eHarmony Labs, claims that “happy couples who engage in positive conflict resolution have higher functioning immune systems than those who don’t.”

Couples who tear each other apart showed declining immune systems compared to couples who discuss their differences in a more loving and positive way.

Love can help you become physically fit. Fitness experts say that couples who work out and exercise together, be it in the gym or a sport, tend to stick to a regimen much longer than when they do it alone. This also applies to healthy eating. A person can stick to healthier eating habits if done as a couple versus solo. A further observation is that men and women work about 15-percent harder when they exercise together, either because they are inspired or excited, giving them more energy.

Love can help you live longer. A 2004 study by the United States Center for Disease Control and Prevention showed that mortality rates are lowest in married couples. Dr. Joseph Hullett said that “people experience less stress, generally, when they’re in a committed, healthy relationship. Less stress means better health. It’s also proven that men, when they are married, forego their riskier habits like heavy drinking and smoking, which leads to longevity.”

Dr. Dean Ornish, in his book Love and Survival: 8 Pathways to Intimacy and Health, said that lack of love causes social isolation, which increases the risk of early death by up to five times. He added that feeling connected is essential to good health. Harvard University also found that married women are 20-percent less likely and married men 100 to 200-percent less likely to die of stress-related causes like heart disease, suicide, and cirrhosis of the liver than single people.

Writing love letters can lower cholesterol. Two random studies published in Human Communication Research revealed that healthy college students who spent 20 minutes a day writing their affection for loved ones whether family, friends or romantic partners registered significant drops in their total cholesterol.

Lovingly holding hands can calm nerves. A study published in Psychological Science claimed that holding hands with someone you love has a calming effect on the body. Researchers recruited happily married couples, then subjected the wives to MRI scans plus a mild shock on their ankles. Their recorded anxiety levels dropped significantly when their husbands reached out and held their hands while undergoing the MRI.

Bonding with a loved one can lower blood pressure. A study published in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine detailed how people who spent time with their romantic partners experience a dip in blood pressure compared to being with strangers. The study explained that the blood pressure drop is from “sweet silence” or a “perceived emotional support,” the kind you get from someone you trust and know you well.

Loving hugs are great for the heart. A University of North Carolina research concluded that a warm embrace with someone you love releases oxytocin or the feel-good hormone. This hormone can lower blood pressure and reduce or balance stress hormones.

Love can even help fight cancer. A new study on ovarian cancer by the University of Iowa showed that those with strong family/social support or satisfying relationships had vigorous “natural killer”cell activity at the tumor site. Dr. Vermont Coleman said that the desirable white blood cells kill cancerous cells as part of the body’s immune system.

Love can make your heart healthy. Dr. Hullett explains, “Human beings are social animals who have biological drives that make them want to find relationships. When they can’t find those unions, they’re punished with stress. People in happy relationships experience less stress, which in turn improves their cardiovascular health.”

He adds that “people who aren’t in stable, committed relationships have an increased rate of heart attacks, particularly those who have been widowed.” So being broken-hearted is not only emotional but also physical.

Love can enhance your mental well-being. A study from Rutgers University found that participants had an increase of dopamine brain activity when they look at the picture of someone they deeply love. Dopamine is associated with optimism, energy, and a sense of well-being.

So, truly as the song goes, perhaps all we need is love!

source: philstar.com